When it comes to your school friends, the thing that is more likely to destroy the friendship is college. “People change drastically in college and become different from what they were in school,” says Parul, an IT professional. And one of the side-effects of these changes is the difference in mindset, which often leads people to shift courses as far as school friends are concerned.
by Sonal Sher
Friends” is a term often loosely used by people. More so, when you are young and naive. While in school, almost everyone around you is your friend and people you spend most of your time with happen to be your classmates. Growing up, most people realize that friends have to have more in common than just the school name and the classroom section. With the amount of turmoil that life brings along many moves on but some manage to stick around with their best friends from school. Metrolife finds out why some friendships work and some don’t.
When it comes to your school friends, the thing that is more likely to destroy the friendship is college. “People change drastically in college and become different from what they were in school,” says Parul, an IT professional. And one of the side-effects of these changes is the difference in mindset, which often leads people to shift courses as far as school friends are concerned.
“My best friend from school has managed to stay as conservative as she was as a teenager. Though we had some good times in school, it is impossible to talk to her now,” says Prerna, a professional. Many limit their communication to an occasional call. “I only talk to my school friends on their birthdays. It is really difficult to stay in touch if you are not in the same college,” says Heena, a student. “Also, since people choose different field in college, it gets difficult to talk and share your own experiences,” she adds.
But on the flipside, there are a people, who manage to stick together for years. “I am still best friends with my school friend and even though he has shifted of the US now, we still keep in contact through chat, mails and phone,” says Robin, a professional. “I am friends with almost all my school friends. Facebook and chatting are all very helpful in being in touch,” says Prakurthi, a student.
As it turns out, there is no trick in managing a friendship. “I am the kind of person, who would always keep in touch once I make friends. And now with Facebook and Yahoo messenger, it’s not that difficult to do. I am still friends with people I was in pre-school with,” says Aisha, a student. And as they say, friendship is about being there for the other person in the time of need. “You can only do that if you are in contact. Otherwise, people just move on and find other people, who they can trust,” says Robin.
